"She was beautiful, but her feet were JACKED UP!"

REVISED 1/03/08

Ladies, health reasons aside, would you ever wear a pair of flats to a special function, a night out on the town an interview or an event away from home? I HOPE not!

Wearing flats to an occasion previously mentioned is like driving a white Ferrari, or requesting a black & white copy of a Salvador Dali print. Ferrari’s should be RED and the work of Salvador Dali should be viewed in COLOR! Both the car & the painting need optimal COLOR to have full impact just as a nice dress or skirt need a pair of HEELS to bring the outfit together!

There's nothing initially more attractive to a guy then knowing that a girl has her act together. The first sign that the fellas have to make such a judgement call is to simply evaluate the way she chooses to present herself in public. Its true, first impressions mean everything!

To me, dressing to impress for ladies means presenting the "total package," not just taking care of the parts that you think a guy is looking at.

The "total package" means that in addition to being a woman of intellect, when you go out socially, you also show demonstrate that you understand the perception being formulated when you select a pair of heels as opposed to opting for flats while keeping the mani & pedi tight! Is that too much to ask for? Even saying the "F" word is difficult for me! F-L-A-T-S...FLATS! YUUUCK!


My crew has affectionately coined a term of endearment for this small expectation that we each hold so near & dear to our hearts- its called rockin' "heels & skirts!" Honestly, it doesn't take much to make us happy... Heels & skirts across the country have brought many a smile to our already grinning faces lol:)

So I ask you the reader, when is it ok NOT to (high) "heel it up?" To me, almost ANY occasion is an occasion to rock a heel over a flat, but I'll try to be practical for the purposes of this post. Flats are perfect for a backyard cookout, a stroll in the park or playing in the yard with kids but thats where the buck stops.

Take a look at the following pictures & be honest... If you were in charge & had to make the decision on appearance alone, which one of these girls would you give a million dollar contract too? As an fyi, NONE of the following three pictures are of well-known models- the girls are just friends rockin' their personal style- so no excuses!

• Can't say I see the heel/motorcycle combination to often but she rocks it well!

It's not her airplane but you can't tell me that she look like she doesn't belong there!

Don't get me wrong there's absolutely nothing wrong with this picture either! But does it have IMPACT of the previous photos?

Reminiscent of our childhood days when we played Mortal Combat & Street Fighter video games, a pair of high heels represent the "finishing move" that can either stack the deck in a particular woman's favor or leave the deck on the card table in its original packaging waiting for the next game to start.

High Heels give a lady stature, sex appeal, height, authority, an air of professionalism and that extra little pizzas to stand out in any situation.

Believe it or not, many guys pay close attention to the small stuff. Below is a classic clip from Eddie Murphy's movie entitled "Boomerang." It captures the essence of why a woman would want to take care of herself...

Ladies, in your particular case Eddie Murphy might not be the one doing the observing, but SOMEONE is taking a close look at your ability to manage the minute details! And I'M NOT talking about the knuckle heads that most of you choose to date on a regular basis. I'm talking about young professionals; the 27 year-old lawyer who is a true to life Kevin Hill, the medical device rep who travels wherever he wants to at the drop or the fortune 50 executive manager who is the life of the party.

PHYSICAL BEAUTY ALONE IS NOT ENOUGH TO LAND ONE OF THESE GUYS.

YOU GOTTA HAVE THE TOTAL PACKAGE- intellect, a good attitude, morals, values & a genuine desire to take care of yourself!

Guys like the ones mentioned above truly have their shit together & aren't intimidated easily. Sure they like to have fun, but they also have a vision of what their lives should look like 5,10, 15 & 20 years down the road.

Enough with the complaining about "I can't find a good guy anywhere!" Where are you looking? Good guys are out there right under your nose but YOU have to be on your "A" game to get into the game!

Let this post serve as a lesson to all that "dumbing it down" is not always the best way to go. Lets make a commitment to take care of ourselves & dare to be different- dress it up a bit more in 2009! It might help you find what you're really looking for.